I have a weak spot, and it has its name: Charlize Theron. Every time I see her I am completely enthralled and I think to myself: is it really possible that she’s forty? True, there are many beautiful forty year-olds and each has her own charm. The charm of a mature woman who knows what she wants, of a mother who usually also has a career, and that of a determinate woman, who doesn’t let things get in the way of her life. But Charlize is after all Charlize, an ex model, an actress and mother, who was not long ago featured in an interesting article about forty year-olds and their energy and about how forties are the new thirties and how these women are out of this world.
Now you’re going to say, OK, you’re just writing this because you’re forty yourself, but in all honesty, I would have trouble going back. I might have a few less wrinkles and firmer thighs, but that’s all there is. Beauty matures by the time we reach forty, and becomes attractive in a different way. That is why we often hear it’s the second youth, when a lot of things in life may change, and we tend to perceive things differently. It’s a time of changing perspectives, when thins are no longer only black or white. And there are some other benefits as well …
Confidence and certainty. Life gets a bit less exhausting when you’re forty, but only because we’re more confident and certain that we’ll win in the end. Am I daring to write this down? Not really, because it’s the truth and there is no harm in saying it. Forty year-olds look on every situation based on certain experience, that’s why we figure out what’s what quicker.
More attractiveness. The body may be perfect at twenty, but the sensations change when you’re forty, you are quite aware of your advantages and have no problem using them. Just think about the men: George Clooney at twenty or at forty? Hugh Jackman at twenty or at forty? Richard Gere at twenty or at forty? You know what I’m saying: it’s the presence of a sort of indescribable charm. I can tell you that you probably won’t see me turning around for a thirty year-old, no matter how marvelous his body is, but I do like some fifty year-old’s wrinkles. As well as a conversation with him.
More self respect. And more situations, in which you put yourself first and let other people figure things out for themselves. As well as the ones, where you know how to appreciate yourself for everything you’ve done, for your work, relationships, children, love, family and friends. They say that forty is when you finally learn how to live with your mistakes and accept them as a part of who you are. They actually make you more interesting and unique, and if they’re big ones, you still try to improve the parts that may not be all that, because it’s no longer hard to admit that every person has their own flaws.
The best sex. When you’re twenty you think about cellulite and other imperfections, when you’re thirty your biological hour is becoming louder, which can be a drag sometimes, but when you’re forty it’s just you. Always think about how nice it is to spent time in your own company and it was just yesterday, when my mother and I were talking about how difficult it is to have true friends, and you often end up alone, keeping yourself company, which is what makes realising that you are your own best friend all the better. Women are supposed to be more erotic in bed when they’re forty, and so are men; perhaps it’s because we’ve closed all the distracting doors behind us and are finally living.
Fashion courage. It is also the time to experiment with new clothes and trends and follow our body, which has changed, of course. Not necessarily for the worse or fatter, but it certainly is different. Go for midi lengths, elegant tailoring, you can still flirt with the idea of jeans and high heels. A look in my closet is quite revealing: there is not a single piece missing, I got everything I wanted andthere are many pieces that boost my confidence. Because it’s true that clothes make the man … and the woman.