I am not that close to this number yet, but at the same time I realize it’s not that far away anymore. In my soul, I’m actually still 23, but “a bit more” in reality. I know that time flows and spares neither good nor bad, ups nor downs, wrinkles nor beauty creams. It’s all part of life, for better or worse, which is why I’m a proponent of a theory that we should live life to the fullest, so we don’t miss any moments that we would later regret. Women are interesting at all ages in our lives, so while you may have flawless skin at thirty, you gain that special confidence that experience brings, which a thirty-year old cannot yet have despite her gorgeous skin. And if the compromise for this wisdom is simply the fact that some lines may show around the eyes and the lips aren’t as full as they once were, well, then I don’t think it’s that bad.
These past few days, I cannot get the gorgeous Jennifer Lopez’s photographs out of my head, she is 49 and I suppose she made a deal with the devil, because she doesn’t age. In comparison to other women her age JLo seems to have that magical female energy that slaps you in the face and puts you in your place. I wouldn’t dream of saying she is scantily dressed just because she isn’t a spring chicken anymore, I would sooner say that I would like to see some more photos, because her skin is so beautiful and her hair so nourished, and I would like for her to finally reveal what her routine is. Perhaps it’s partly the young men she keeps around all the time, although I’m not sure that a man can make you look 20 years younger than you actually are. I would sooner say that they give you an extra month or so of worries, quarrels and weird behavior, because men are simply men and we’re not exactly from the same planet. Not that it’s a bad thing, but I admit it can be challenging in certain situations.
Do you know what else I like about 50-year olds? That they dare to be beautiful and sometimes very different, confident, independent, regardless of the rules and clichés, women with a capital W that have the world in the palms of their hands and never whisper behind people’s backs, but tell it straight to your face. I would never dare tell a 50-year old woman what to wear and what not to wear, because I firmly believe that she already knows herself what makes her feel great, which man makes her happy, where the kids need to be and what her role is at home. These women simply know. When I read the interview with Jennifer, I laughed, because we are so similar in the end and yes, age is only a number, so who cares. There are 50-year olds that look kind of old and tired and then there are those that run you over with their energy and are full of ideas, so it’s clear they can move the world in its hinges. The latter will always try to give their most, which is the only way we should do things: to be the best we can, to do the most we can, so we never have regrets that “we didn’t do this well enough and we didn’t try”. It’s important not to hold things against yourself, to respect yourself, even if you’ve made mistakes.
And like Jennifer says, learn to ask for help, because it really doesn’t say anywhere that we have to take care of everything by ourselves, it’s just a pattern that’s stuck in our heads and it would be best to get rid of it as soon as possible, not wait untilwe turn 50! And don’t apologize for the things that make you happy, for the people that you called into your life, for the mistakes that left you with wrinkles, or for the wins that you can call your own. We each have a right to be what we are, even if we won’t please others, what matters is that we like ourselves. Learn to do baby steps that will take us to the finish line and reward yourself for making it that far, because you’re going to make it even further! This inner world that we often don’t spend enough time talking to, is the only thing we can rely on entirely. To me it seems that a smart woman knows very well the way our inner self is linked to our outer self and that there is no outer beauty without inner harmony, that everything is in sync, when we find our path. In Jennifer, I see lots of women that don’t spend their lives in the limelight, at least not in the world of Hollywood and movies. Nevertheless, they are excellent leads in their lives and femmes fatale to all that have the abilityto appreciate them.
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