I truly believe that every one of us is wonderful. I’ve been present in the fashion business for over 20 years, and while it can be said that this world is just superficial and all too much focused on slenderness, in reality other things are more important. One of those is women’s charisma. I have many friends that are neither very young or slender ; they are, however, so beautiful, sunny, always smiling and happy that their positive outlook on life is quite catching. It’s interesting to note that those are also the qualities that men notice and it always draws them in. That is why I always say we’re all beautiful as long as we know how to smile and how to use kindness as a principle in life. A kind word goes a long way, so pay attention to what you say. You know, less gossip and more introspection and taking time to learn, who you really are.
Of course, everybody would like to be wonderful, attractive and beautiful, and since feeling good about ourselves undoubtedly brings out our special glow, here are seven pieces of advice for flawless beauty. Women can be extremely critical and usually notice flaws, such as blemishes, cellulite, height, extra weight etc., even though there is a big chance that nobody else does. That is why women tend to start feeling unattractive quickly. Remember, don’t let anybody take your smile away! It is your beauty weapon.
You can have a fashion or beauty icon, but don’t compare yourself to her too much. Magazines, web and TV offer a picture of perfect beauty that is related to youth. Today’s fashion icons are 20 years old, which is ridiculous. Women are beautiful and attractive for a long time, but in all honesty, you hardly know anything about the world, when you’re twenty. The fashion and beauty industry force an unrealistic ideal of a woman, but this causes confusion, because an average woman has a difficult time relating to that ideal. Always keep in mind that even the least attractive woman in the world can look good, if she has an army of stylists, makeup artists on her side and enough money to buy all the necessary style and beauty accessories. It’s quite different in real life.
Figure out you advantages. Because you certainly have plenty of them on hand. Perhaps it’s your legs, nice complexion, great cleavage, wonderful eyes, luscious lips, long hair, or perhaps it’s you character, charisma, your hands, the ways you speak … Always emphasise your good qualities ‒ you can never do this too much. It’s good to know your assets and use them to your own advantage. Your confidence will grow, which is always a very positive thing.
Also define your disadvantages. And then learn to deal with them, because, believe me, nobody is perfect, we all have flaws, and it’s never just one.
Have true friends. There probably won’t be ten of them, even though nothing would make me happier for you. But we all know friendship is a rare and beautiful thing, which makes every friend a sought-after treasure. It’s very important to have the right people around you, to make you feel good; and since everything in life is connected, if you feel good, you look beautiful.
The same principle applies to you partner. If you’re with a man that never stops criticising you, always looks around, comparing you to gorgeous women and commenting on every extra pound of your weight, you need to know that he’s an “ass”. I’m sorry, but there is just no other word for it. Every normal, intelligent man has to realise that women get hurt when you stop treating them like princesses. If we can’t avoid criticism in our own home, then we’re better off being alone. At least the result will be less damage and more happiness.
There is also inner beauty. Actually, I would say this is the one that matters, and that is not just a cliché. A beautiful woman has beautiful thoughts, she is kind and speaks kindly of others. Don’t you find it interesting that the meanest people are usually the least attractive ones? You always have to work on yourself to change your image.
Make yourself look good for yourself. Without expectations ‒ it’s the expectations that bring you down. If you want to be beautiful, attractive, if you want to dress up, then do it for yourself. If people around you notice it, even better, but if they don’t, it’s their problem. Always keep in mind that it’s not productive doing things because of other people, especially when it comes to beauty and femininity. You yourselves have to have the self confidence and be sure that you are actually beautiful and put together well. You will benefit from it more than others. This point of view should be reason enough to encourage you to make an effort to look good.