The first thing that comes to my mind is: after 40 you really have to be organised. You should realise that there is no time like the present to get things done, but also that you must have achievable goals. Secondly, start to meditate and I know, that when you say the word meditation to some people they think you’re some new-age whacko or “hippie.” Well, in my case I am not. But meditation is simply a way to internalize and focus on ourselves, rather than the hectic world around us. It’s a way to find a little peace, without grabbing a drink, watching TV, or flat out falling asleep. This is awareness, and helps us achieve an emotional balance. It’s very easy to get started, too.
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I guess these days you have a little more time for yourself. Staying at home and working differently made us use more pijamas and less high heels. I know, we are not happy, but from the other side there is an action we can take and find more quality time for ourselves. Just be patient and everything will come, really. When we’re kids, we don’t have it. When we’re in our 20s, we fake it. By the time we’re in our 30s, we often let it slide because “I’ve been doing this a long time and I deserve what I want, when I want!” Now, after hitting 40, it has dawned on me that learning how to be patient is something I should have done a long time ago. And it’s not difficult.
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A nice and useful thing you can do is to start learning how to really forgive people. You don’t have to forget what that person did to you, but you can make a concerted effort to talk it over with them, and offer your genuine forgiveness. Remember, the person suffering the most from these feelings is you. The other person probably doesn’t think about it half as much as you do, so let it go. Forgive them, move on, and you’ll feel better. Letting go is something amazing, it can also be as simple as walking out of an awful movie. Think about it. Time is a precious resource, and one that we have less of every day.
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The feeling of invincibility you have as a teenager and young adult slowly goes away as you come face to face with some of the harsh realities of the world, but knowing exactly where your limits lie doesn’t clip your wings and make you abandon your dreams. In fact, this knowledge only helps you adapt and choose the best strategy when faced with a challenge.
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