Wearing this amazing pink, sequin dress, I was thinking about judgement. We’re so worried about just being our truest expression of our selves out of fear that others will judge us. Well, rest assured — they will. No matter how you act, who you are, what your life circumstances are, or what you’re wearing …. you will be judged. So, why not let them see the authentic you so that their judgments (which are only a reflection of who they are and the lens through which they see the world, not just you) can, at the very least, be in response to authenticity? Instead of letting the fear of judgment stop you from being you, I invite you to accept the idea of being judged as a part of being a human being and interacting with other human beings. And then check how you judge others … maybe there’s space to soften a bit.




The older I get, the more I realize how precious my energy is. Most people worry about wasting time, but I worry about wasting energy. It’s true we never know how much time we have on this planet, but what we do know is that we get to choose how we spend it. We get to choose where to put our energy. What relationships to put energy into. What careers to put energy into. What hobbies, social justice organizations, environmental issues, political events, social events … you name it. Putting our energy into things that aren’t truly life-giving, and we’re just doing it to appear a certain way, will drain all your precious energy. Being someone other than who you truly are, is exhausting. Wanting to please others is natural and normal; it’s when you are pretending to be different solely for their approval that it becomes an issue.






When we’ve spent so much time putting the needs of others before our own, it can be hard to determine what is most important to us. A good starting point is to make a list of the things that bring us joy. These can be things like family, friends, productivity, nature, spirituality, and education. We can then clarify our values by ranking them in order of importance. As we do this, it can be helpful to check in with ourselves to ask whether we are choosing what is important based on what we feel in our heart rather than what we think would be viewed favorably by others. Once we have a list of our most important values, the next step is to determine whether the life we are living is consistent with what we care about most.





When we live our truth, we are able to show up most effectively for ourselves and for those we care for.
***I am wearing a Bella Barnett dress, code TFB15 for an extra $15 off
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