Five steps to a flawless summer

Deb Caletti wrote:

“Summer, after all, is a time when wonderful things can happen to quiet people. for those few months, you’re not required to be who everyone thinks you are, and that cut-grass smell in the air and the chance to dive into the deep end of a pool give you a courage you don’t have the rest of the year. you can be grateful and easy, with no eyes on you, and no past. summer just opens the door and lets you out.”

This feeling of pure happiness has enveloped me entirely, because I’m a summer person and I would sign for 365 days of sunshine and gentle glistening on the sea surface without hesitation. This is what prompted this little guide to big happiness, a summer’s happiness, of course, but also an overall sensation of joy, because we all just want to keep feeling good, especially when things aren’t exactly in their place.

Photo: Zen

Photo: Zen

Photo: Zen

Photo: Zen

Keep love in your heart

It’s where it’s supposed to be and never let it go. It’s not about the love you fell for your partner, although that’s wonderful, it’s mostly about the love you have for yourself and that should never extinguish.It’s also about a deep respect that won’t allow you to trample all over yourself and crush your own soul. Try to keep the good and pleasant, especially when unpleasant things happen; keep a space in your heart that only belongs to you, and that’s why it’s safe and magical and it will always keep you safe and no one will ever find you here.

Always look on the positive side of things

I’m sure there is one, because it’s always there. Maybe at first we can’t see it, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist, far from it. A glass is either half empty or half full, dependingon the angle, so it really depends on how you choose to look at it. If you choose half full, things will get easier and you’ll always feel like there is truth. We get farther with optimism than we do with whining and pessimism.

Photo: Zen

Photo: Zen

Photo: Zen

Photo: Zen

Photo: Zen

No expectations

I admit, this is a point that requires some more writing, but if I keep it short…Our happiness or unhappiness isn’t other people’s fault, but our own. So don’t expect anything, really, never do, not from your children or from your husband, because all expectations are tied to your own truth and not to another person’s truth. If you rid yourself of expectations, you rid yourself of bad mood and bad energy, because you will finally understand that you hold the reins to your life and you always will.

Count your blessings

You know there are many,  don’t you? Perhaps you forget about them now and then, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t any. If you can’t see them, then try writing a list and they will quickly become clearer. We are blessed every day, but we fail to notice so we start taking things for granted. It’s a big mistake, because that way we always focus on the bad and forget everything good that has happened to us. That way we add even more energy to the bad experience and we make a mountain from a grain. So count your blessings every single day.

Photo: Zen

Photo: Zen

Photo: Zen

Photo: Zen

Photo: Zen

Let your past go

To let go isn’t to forget, because we are our past and we would be completely different without it. To let go is to move on without looking back, no matter the consequencesor feelings, maybe by listening to our subconscious and intuition. Women can be very intuitive, but the problem is we often mistakenlyassume that it’s just a feeling and it could be wrong. It’s usually not: the first impression counts. The past should stay where it is, it will always be there and it won’t get lost, you’ll always find your way back, if needed.  However,you cannot become a prisoner of your past, as ifyou’re trapped in a barrel with no air. It’s time to move on.

***Wearing all white by Ann Taylor

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