I was thinking about things we can do this year to be happier. About goals that are easy to achieve, if we keep them in mind. About friends, which aren’t many, but have to be true, about time, which keeps running and nobody knows how to stop it. Or rather, we don’t make enough of an effort to do so. So I rolled up my sleeves and stared writing. About gratitude, people, life. About having memories and creating moments that will last forever. About this period never repeating again, so it’s best to live it to the fullest, without a guilty conscience and with that perfect amount of confidence we have. Ready?
Speak positively about yourself
Not only, because you deserve to have only good said about you, but also, bevause you actually ARE good. Don’t expect sympathy from others, if you’re unkind to yourself. Respect yourself, love yourself, try to understand yourself and make decisions, accept mistakes and all the things that define you. That is who you are. For better and worse.
One goal at a time
Because we take on a load that is too heavy and then we break. Is this new to you? Not to me. How many goals do you have in this particular moment? I have at least five, and it’s still January; by March, I’ll be done for. The problem is that we lose our sense of direction and then we no longer know, where we are or how good we actually are. Once you reach a goal, take a breath, give yourself a hug for making it, reward yourself and only then move on to the next one.
Listen to others less and yourself more
This world has many voices, too many, really. They create a noise and we go into a downward spiral. Try not to pay as much attention to others, only listen to what is really necessary; not everyone likes you and it’s great the way it is. In order to keep you from wasting time with the world, my advice is to turn inward, find out what your intuition is telling you and then follow it.
Friends: few, but true
They know you. They can be loud, but also unbelievably quiet, they don’t comment or give advice, if you don’t ask them for it. Do you even have them? I have but a few. I desire more female energy, more cooperation and understanding, more hugs and smiles and feeling like we all belong to the same family, because we all feel similar emotions and have comparable experience. It’s good to be able to stick together.
Time is precious, but kids are priceless
Stop it. I’ll tell you: we keep running around like crazy, we have so many responsibilities, we don’t get enough sleep, we spin out of control, and the kids get stuck somewhere in the middle, freaking out. They also feel pressure: in school, from their classmates, teachers and everybody else. Parents are an anchor that has to provide a safe harbor for them. If we keep spinning, there is no harbor. Stop time and calm yourself for your sake and your children’s.
Tidy up, forgive and move on
We can handle people and pir past sort of like we do our wardrobe. There’s no use in regretting and going round in circles. After all, who cares? Find closure and stop; you won’t forget, because that’s impossible, but you can forgive, which is a huge achievement. Bitterness won’t get you far, vengeance even less so. Don’t forget it.
Every pill is manageable, if you take it with a bit of sugar.
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