There is always somebody in the audience, when I give fashion and trend advice, who says that those are only reserved for slender women. And there’s always a few that gasp, when they hear that, because it’s a thought that crosses lots of people’s minds, but there are many that don’t say it out loud. There are many reasons. The most common one being that it’s super hard for any woman admitting that she’s fat. Okay, so I intentionally used this ugly word, because I know how it can lurk around, until it sets roots and grows into a “lovely” tree, which cannot be uprooted. If women start feeling fat or out of shape for just a moment, the thought doesn’t leave us again. The other issue are beauty standards, which can be cruel and unrealistic, and the fact that we oftentimes fail to distinguish between Hollywood and real life.
What made me write this article was my very personal wish to tell you that each and every one of you is actually gorgeous, regardless of the size of their behind, saggy arm flaps, belly or cellulite on their thighs. Okay, so it would be better if those things weren’t there, but our body is our temple, so it’s best to accept its divine attributes, pamper it, love it and worship it. Fashion is not reserved for slender women and while I agree there are some pieces that are reserved for them, it has to be said that those are mostly trendy pieces that will not last anyway, so try not to worry too much about it. Skin tight things are not wearable anyway, neither are miniskirts, skinny jeans and braless sweaters. It only works on Chiara Ferragni and the effect is not even fail-proof with her. Let’s be honest: women, some of whom have also given birth, have a lot of flaws, but in my eyes these are advantages, because they’re so closely connected to our life experience, our work and keeping things real.
I honestly hope that by now you’ve realized that there is more than one color, which is usually black, because life is a rainbow and your wardrobe should follow suit. It’s best to steer clear of oversized prints, but if you happen to wear them and they make you feel good, you should know I’m the first one to support you. Do you know, when your positive attitude toward life is genuinely noticeable? When you smile becomes wider than the butt you spend so much time criticizing and everybody sees your teeth are pearly white. It’s all about your inner glow. And the fact you feel good. It’s important to have clean thoughts and then opt for that white blouse you wouldn’t normally wear, because you think it makes you look huge. It doesn’t. Add some red lipstick and no one will even notice you’re a size 16. Sometimes, our perception of the world is so wrong, it’s like everybody is looking at us, waiting to notice cellulite or mistake. I don’t think that’s the way it is.
Learn to find a shape that suits you and, please, go shopping without your husband, because you know they usually say something wrong at the exact moment they’re just supposed to stay nice and quiet. I’m serious, let them stay at home watching Netflix or go buy themselves a new perfume, because that’s the most helpful they can be at that moment. What I’m trying to say is that each of us can be beautiful in our own way. And this way does not include perfection, because being perfect is too boring. Well, perhaps you were expecting an article listing advice for plus size women, but I’m afraid I’m not that clever. To me it seems you already know everything you need to and if you don’t, then ask me. All I can say is this: keep your heart tidy, laugh a lot and take a look now and then at what the world has to offer. Even today’s photos speak for themselves and while these women may not be perfect, still…aren’t they marvelous?
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