I am always excited to read articles about relationships, because I believe it’s an area worth being knowledgeable about, in order to make fewer mistakes. I wrote fewer intentionally , because they’re a permanent part of life, seeing as how different we are on so many levels. Nowadays, women are exceedingly independent, which increases our confidence and readiness to say what’s what. We do, however, often get the feeling we’re always right, which, of course, isn’t true. It’s good to change perspective every once in a while and stand in somebody else’s shoes. As it happens, men hate unnecessary jealousy, mostly the clinginess and doubtful looks toward phones, checking e-mails and so on. We have two options: Either we’re in the wrong relationship or there’s something seriously wrong with us. Either way, something must be done about it.
Too much makeup
The man probably feels like there’s nothing but a mask in front of him. There are exceptions, of course, such as an evening makeup, but let’s face it, lipstick smudges on a white shirt or powder tracks on a man’s jacket are things that regularly, and justifiably, make them crazy. So either be more careful or go lighter on the makeup.
This is probably irritating for everybody, not just men. Some women speak really loudly, especially in company, and it’s not cute, but forced and fake, not to mention the fact it all boils down to literally screaming for attention. Plus, it looks like the loudmouth has no manners. So quiet down, my darlings.
Every time I want to say something bad about someone, I try to imagine how that would feel if it were for me. And then I just don’t say anything. Men can be touchy about criticism regarding their friends and it’s just generally wrong to fence them all out, just because you have issues of your own. Because that makes it less about love and more about control.
Do you like me? Do you love me? Am I the prettiest one?
Be careful asking questions like these, because it’s a shortcut to the man feeling trapped. It makes him start to think you need to much assertion and have no confidence at all. Although, I have to add that some men can be stingy with compliments and praises, so it’s normal to become a bit needy. Just pace yourself.
Mani & pedi
Men are believed to be sensitive when it comes to beautiful hands and feet, and I found this surprising; they do notice them, so try to mind not just the hygiene, but also a nice manicure and pedicure, especially now that the feet are exposed. It isnt enough for the sandal to look good, so do the feet.
Lay off the ex
Continually asking about the exes and comparing yourself to them is the worst. Who cares? Whatever happened, happened and the same goes for you. It’s better to bury bits of the past and turn the page. Amen.
I think this one depends on the particular man, but generally they’re not super happy when you’re walking around half naked for everybody to see. I agree that there has to be a certain amount of good taste. There are exceptions, of course, and you don’t have to go farther than the beach to see them. They’re usually the couples that spend ten hours a day at the gym. God bless, because who really has that much time? 10 hours training, 2 hours in front of the mirror before a stroll around town in a mandatory sleeveless top and micro mini skirt.
And the pyjamas …
The stretched-out-beyond-recognition ones. You know that they don’t like them, nor do they like the slippers that your great-great-grandmother made, or the ones with puppies and dinosaurs. Nope, they’re not cute, they’re horrible! Try to put some effort into the way you are at home‒same goes for men. Shrunken sweats and washed-out underwear aren’t exactly sexy, which turns women off just the same as it does guys!
Silent about sex
I’m still not sure men talk about what goes on between the sheets amongst themselves. Maybe some of them do, but I guess the normal ones don’t. Same goes for us: I know we joke around about some stuff now and then, measurements and the like, but we should be discreet about some of these issues and in any case, people don’t actually care.
It leads to P.I.’s or hiding outside in the bushes. Set a limit and don’t cross it. If you suspect something’s wrong in your relationship, there probably is, but start with yourself and your own flaws. And if the man by your side happens to have you on a leash, get some scissors, and cut loose. It’s much better than setting out on a mission to change him, which is a battle lost in advance.