Recently, when I was on a flight, I finally bought a sleep spray that I had used many years ago, together with a relaxation oil , which you apply to the inside of your wrist, and I can tell you it was a purchase for the soul. A mix of different scents, lavender being the dominant, now accompanies my sleep, as with the passage of years, quality rest is vital for my wellbeing. Keeping my thoughts clear of negatives is just as important. During the day, we accumulate issues in our mind, heart, and soul, that we cannot let go of. There are usually many concerns and we tend to analyze them at night, because they stay stuck in our subconscious and scream at us for not resolving them; they need help with that. An extra reason to finish the day with some positive affirmations and pleasant thoughts, because we not only deserve a calm sleep, but also a calmed soul as well.
Not that long ago, I read an article saying that we only need six good thoughts before we fall asleep. This is enough to make us fall asleep better and relax quicker. Every day is composed of moments and we often overlook the fact these tiny moments and seemingly unimportant things are exactly the ingredients that make a day better. Even if You’ve been through hell, fighting and dealing with issues, you should know there’s a positive side to these things, most importantly your wonderful qualities, which have enabled you to get through all of it today. Go, ladies! We all deserve a hug and if there’s no one around at the moment, you should give yourself one!
Postcards from the subconscious
I studied psychology, so it might be easier for me to dive into my soul, which, by the way, is a complicated one, but that doesn’t mean I’ve given up on it, not at all. The subconscious is where we store events, words, and people, as though they were postcards. Close your eyes and focus on something you particularly liked: a vacation, an embrace of a man, your child’s hand, a walk in nature, shopping with friends … What makes you happy? When I want to relax, it’s always the same picture in front of my mind’s eye: resting in Miami, on a sun bed, turquoise sea and white sand. I think of this and I laugh with joy.
Such a nice phrase, and it’s free … And yet, do we use it enough? I don’t think so. When you close your eyes, simply thank the people who made your day better. Don’t stop with people, thank your body for working so tirelessly 24/7, your parents who got you into this world, yourself for being here, for being unique, wonderful, and so incredibly strong. Give thanks and feel the joy, but to do so, you have to be sincere, otherwise it won’t work. Then take this internal thanks into your real life, if you possibly can, don’t limit to giving only mental thanks.
What have I learned today?
Evenings are a time, when we can draw a line and try to understand, what we have learned. I know: a lot of good stuff, right? Make every day a lesson and make every lesson positive, even if it doesn’t seem like there are many positive things, at first glance. Say you’re sorry, if you’ve offended somebody, and remember that saying sorry is a sign of strength, not weakness. We all make mistakes, after all we’re meant to learn from them. It’s okay to take a wrong turn, what’s important at the end of the day is that we see what’s what, and try to see the underlying lesson.
See … and let go
Like clouds in the sky, which simply go … They won’t be there in a couple moments. So try to change your perspective, especially at night, when you need peace and quiet. See the problem from a different angle, try to believe there is always a different truth and a big chance things will work out. Listen to your instinct, it often knows where things stand, and you have the power to silence it. I’m a master instinct silencer myself, and I can tell you that us, women, are something else, we could fool ourselves!
What’s waiting for you tomorrow?
Visualize things, and, more importantly, wishes, that await for us tomorrow. Do it with a lightness, no mulling or feeling defeated in advance, because it can become too overbearing. Visualize situations in the way you want them to dissolve or develop, let go of problems, because if you constantly focus on them, you’re giving them additional power, which is something you want to avoid. If tiny things turn into huge problems, it’s because you see them that way! Feel tranquil and calm, before you go to sleep, and let absolutely nothing bother or distract you, it’s just you in bed, on a pillow, perfect.
Research shows that kisses (just like hugs) are very important, so get your dose, because they have a calming and anti stress effect. You can kiss your partner, your kid, or your pet, and always forgive those who have done you harm, because they’re not necessarily set against you. And if they are, know that you won’t change them with hatred. So, forgive, hug, and fall asleep without a guilty conscience, because tomorrow is another day, and I can tell you it’s going to be wonderful!
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