Our mindset contains our ideas and views about life, which come from our previous experiences and perceptions of the world. How we look at the world influences our experience in it. Our perception becomes our reality. Creating a good-enough mindset that isn’t filled with unrealistic expectations will help you cultivate a sense of wellbeing. Therefore, the first step to feeling like you’re enough is changing your mindset and old beliefs about yourself derived from past experiences of what’s expected of you. ou find yourself asking, “When will what I do be enough?” You wonder, “How do I know if I’m truly happy or just settling to be comfortable?” It’s that feeling you get when you expect things of yourself that you’d never expect from others. It’s working yourself to exhaustion in hopes that you’ll feel whole, complete, worthy. It’s basing your self-worth on external accomplishments, feeling like you have something to prove all the time.
Try to let go of whatever it is that’s holding you back from accepting who you are. You’ll probably realize that you aren’t what other people say you are. You aren’t your pain, your past, or your emotions. It’s usually negative ideas about ourselves and hurtful self-talk that get in the way of who we really want to be and push us to never make any mistakes. Start making your own decisions. It isn’t necessary to share every problem you encounter with everyone in your life. People do this to get advice, be told what they need to do, and pass their anxiety on to others. We can’t feel totally satisfied with where we’re going until we can accept, acknowledge, and appreciate where we are. Make peace with where you are, and your journey toward something new will feel much more peaceful, rewarding, and satisfying. To seek for perfection in an imperfect world seems to be a waste of time. Perfection is an illusion because it is relative and incalculable. It seems to be an ego feeding proposition that keeps us in a place of discontent.
Imperfections are the windows to the heart of a person. The Japanese concept of “wabi sabi” illustrates the wisdom of imperfection. We treasure a note from a child, knitted vest from grandma, broken seashell from a walk with a friend “Because despite their imperfections, these objects become beacons of our humanity: our ability to feel, to empathize, to connect, to love. To bring more wabi sabi into our lives depends on our ability to focus, slowing down, shifting the balance from doing to being, to appreciating rather than perfecting. What is important is to attend to the present and appreciate the little details. Wabi-sabi reminds us that we are all in the process of changing from one state to the next along a continum. Our material world as well as our bodies will eventually return to dust.
Give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back for trying, making progress, and coming as far as you have.
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