We have a partner, kids, friends, and parents. We have lots of responsibilities and not enough time for ourselves. But in the end, we mostly have ourselves and everything starts with the love we feel for ourselves. We’re lost without it, become unsuccessful in life and in our relationships, and most of all, we cannot demand respect or appreciation from others, if we have none for ourselves. Life is full of ups and downs, so we can quickly lose our way or fall into a downward spiral of thoughts, which go along the lines of: “you’re no good”, “you’ve made another mistake” or “you won’t make it”. My darlings, you do realise that you’re not alone, don’t you? Step in front of a mirror and take a long look, because I know you’re wonderful and I know there is a lot you have to show for, a lot of success and many good people. There are falls as well, of course, but whoever has not yet fallen, has not began living yet, so keep a positive outlook on life.
Keep your goals realistic
They may be high, but they should also be within reach. That’s the key to confidence. You should dream, of course, and that’s what the bigger goals are about, the ones more difficult to achieve, but don’t lose track of the simpler ones, where baby steps matter and you can see the end result more quickly and easily, and you will be happy. It’s important to note the small battles as well as the ones leading to big goals. Everything matters.
When your reach the goal you’ve set, remember that you deserve a reward. What’s a reward? That depends on your needs and your means. It can be a new shade of nail polish or a trip, it can be going to the movies or simply some time for yourself. It’s important to reward yourself and tell yourself: “You’re great for having achieved that!” We often expect other people to recognise our achievements and we’re sad if there’s no acknowledgement. That’s a mistake; expect less and reward yourself more.
Confidence is attractive
A confident woman is often more successful, also because she draws other people in, becomes a leader, who other people listen to and follow; they’re sure she knows where she’s going. Confidence is key and you should build yours however you can, even if it means reading books on the subject or practising in front of a mirror. There is nothing worse than a woman who doesn’t appreciate herself, because, my darlings, you have an abundance of reasons to be appreciated, just take a look within, and you’ll see. Or ask your child.
Let others tell you, why you’re unique
Because you’ve helped others, because you were there for a friend in need, because your child is crying for you when they’re running a fever, and calling for you when they drew a wonderful picture. If for no other reason, you’re unique, because you’ve touched the lives of others and made them better and simpler. Do you really believe you’re replaceable in the hearts of these people? Not in the slightest. You are a unique being in your universe, appreciate that and never forget it.
Focus on yourself
Care less about neighbours and their lives, and more about what’s in your heart. Focus on yourself, set clear goals and know where you’re going, and why you’re actually here. For some women, it’s all about their family, for others it’s marriage or career, some are happily single, others spiritual … There are many types, we should recognise our own and follow it. You know, that inner voice that knows exactly what you want and is also good at giving advice.
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